So your loved one is locked up in prison for an internet sex sting where they were speaking to an adult and there was no real victim. There was only talk but no sexual act. They get sentenced and are now spending years in prison with years of probation to follow and a life of registry. If that is not bad enough check this out.

A person who has committed murder and was not sentenced to life is eligible for work release. Yes if they fit the criteria they can participate in a work release program. If you have been accused of any sexual offense, you cannot qualify for work release period. It does not matter whether there was a victim or not. It does not matter the nature of the crime. Non violent sex offenders will never have the chance to be eligible. 

Tell me that is not messed up. So the person who murdered someone is safer than the one who had a sexual role playing conversation with an adult woman.

This is why it is so important that they cases be evaluated on a case to case basis. This is why they need to figure out who is the real threat to society and who is not. True a murderer may never murder again, and if they have been evaluated and rehabilitated and are able to get a chance, why can't the guy who went onto an adult chat room looking for an adult woman be given the same opportunity for evaluation? 

If you are reading this, whether you agree with me or not, you have to see that this is messed up. You have to realize that they are categorizing all sex offenders as a threat and placing them all in the same boat without giving non threatening non violent offenders a chance. People with no previous charges and no history of any unlawful acts are being sentenced more harshly then repeat offenders arrested on different types of violent crimes.

It is clear that you do the crime you do your time does not apply here, because no matter what a sex offender will never stop paying for their charge. 

Who out there is going to change this? Who is going to step up and help these men arrested for these crimes get a fair chance at life? 

I receive emails from many people telling me about their similar stories and how these internet stings have affected their lives and how unfair these stings really are. Of course everyone has the first time they commit a crime, but more often then not, when someone you know goes to prison, their lifestyle showed their character.There were other factors, signs, hints or clues that let you know that that person may get in trouble one day, or they have already committed crimes previously. In the emails I get, people saw no signs, there were no indications, no prior history and the men were all looking for companionship or casual sex. They had no intent. They were not going into adult sites to look for children to pick up. Thousands upon thousands of men sit in prison using our tax payer's money because they spoke out of line. Not because they really wanted to hook up with a child. Laws regarding these stings are changing in many states, but the sex offender laws in Florida are not.


Here is a letter that someone would like me to share. The person who contacted wrote this and would like his thoughts and words to be heard.

Internet sting operations.  What's wrong with them, or does the US. Constitution, Bill of Rights, or Declaration of Independence mean anything today?

There is good and bad in everything we do under the sun even the Bible tells us about the golden rule and is a road map of examples that we all should follow but what is the U.S. constitution today. Is it some weathered document sitting in some library or some pipe dream, dreamed up by our For fathers? It starts with a preamble that says.... We the People.....That means you and me, in order to form a more perfect union. John Lennon probably said it best with his song, "Come together" and the late Martin Luther King. rallied with his "I had a dream" for the purpose of Civil Rights.

So now we are faced with a new problem, the internet sting operation delude that targets sexual predators with there main motivated to catch sex predators anyway they  can, even posing as a child that's underage.

 The figure's are astounding with 700,000 people labeled as sex predators for offenses that are no more than urinating in public or a roadside pit stop.  Even going into an adult website that may or may not contain underage kid could be dangerous to one's health. With the internet one can never know if the person on the other end is who they really are.

 Being persuaded with the opportunity of sex, which is mostly the reason most adult men and women go to these sites or some spicy chat, provide an opening invitation for some type of opportunity for these police officers to work on the suspected predator which than findings out that this person was actually a police officer doing a police sting can be devastating to say the least.

  Yes these agents do deceptive stings and pose as underage kids, present you with an opportunity for some type of sexual chat or by play and try to use the information gained to make a case. While you might want to back out of all this they well do the best to persuade you in meeting them. They will use anything at their disposal to get you to come down and meet even to the point that pushes one into just giving in or to peak their suspicions. While you might say that couldn't happen to me think again. They will prey on your weaknesses, emotions, and your moral values. While I'm sure the intent all along was to really chat with an adult. 

As I said before, there are good and bad in everything. The Bible says “let no man deceive you", and that’s exactly what they’re doing.  To coin a phrase there taking otherwise law abiding citizens and leading them down the path yet the government says its ok to deceive them if it catches someone. Did our for Fathers have this in mind when the U.S. constitution was framed .......not on your life.......we do have unalienable rights and those that are faced in a position of a plea deal vs going to trail in these sex sting operations are in a position that amounts to nothing more than a catch 22 type of law, truth and justice never come out in a plea deal in other words due process is a bit overshadowed from the bill of rights.

The power of all of this was giving by "We the People” and while the years keep passing by "We the People" need all to stand up for what is right and what is wrong like Martin Luther King did. We all want our vested rights such as life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness 

Do we the people still have a voice? Do we the people want to stand up for what is fair? Do we the people that have been wrongfully duped by overzealous Government agencies have the right for the pursuit of happiness? Do we the people have a right in some circumstances to say that the court systems are wrong and most try to hurry you thru the system? Do we the people have the right to say that a lot of these internet sex stings are way out of line when one is misled by local law enforcements just for the pride of giving a high five to say we reeled him in like a fish?

That’s what most of these stings are all about a fishing expedition. American  don't know all about these sting operations and are really not informed that well as to the law's that surround them or the manner that they present. I'm sure they don't understand about labeling and I'm sure they would just as well lock some of these people up and throw away the key.

Now think for a minute. I wonder if some of these people were actually drawn into these sex stings. Was it deception all the way or a bad thought? While everybody on the face of the planet has different thoughts and a different mindset ask yourself this.......did you ever have the thought of robbing a grocery store and a friend of yours said come on lets go for it but at the last minute you asked to back out or did you ever have the thought of stealing clothing from a clothing store with your friend and you backed out of that at the last minute. In the eyes of the law you’re guilty of that thought and since the clothing or the grocery didn't have any money or the clothing store didn't have any clothing you were guilty of attempt.

Sounds silly to me but all so real from the police standpoint so if there is no victim and it’s just a factious hill of beans to lure someone in for the purpose of monetary gain, intent, or some type probable cause, I don't see the actual point, when they are the one's actually grooming the victim to a probable situation.  One actually has to have intent and just the mere thought is questionable. If there is intent to back during the internet chat or a cell phone chat that to me would speak volumes. There is moral reasoning and legal reasoning. I think some error in there God giving reasoning in these sting operations.

So to blazes with the Constitution, the Bill of Rights, the Declaration of Independence You the people voted us in and we are pleased, and it is all justified because you voted us in. We are We the People. Thank you America for paying our salaries with your tax dollars and thank you for giving us the opportunity to make these erroneous laws for you to live by.

Sometimes one has to vent when government goes a bit overboard on issues with these sting operations and things in general.



If you would like me to post your story, please contact me.

Though it is not a routine I wish to have, because I miss him so much, we are getting into our own routine. I would say we talk an average of about 7 times per week and visits anywhere from once to twice a month. Do not get me wrong, I love that we are even able to talk and see each other, but I really wish that he was here instead of there.

Visits are great, looking at him makes my day. I feel blessed at those moments. I wish I could go more but it does get expensive. I have to drive 3 1/2 hrs each way. The gas is like 50 bucks and then food. I go as early as I can so you need food for breakfast and lunch. The prices are not crazy high but it runs at least 20 bucks for food for the two of us. So depending on where you are coming from it would run about 75 dollars or so. It is worth seeing him totally but I cannot do it all the time.

When we talk we try to keep each other informed about normal everyday things. It is important to keep normality. For him and for me. It is our 15 min escape. I sit here sometimes and feel like I am in a dream, or should I say nightmare. I try my best to not get down, and I do a pretty good job of keeping the faith and keeping my head up. But I must admit there are days when I just say man this sucks. It sucks even more when you know that they are not the person they make them out to be. 

I use to make a habit of saying why is this happening? Not about this in particular but about every bad thing that has happened. I was always asking God why does this have to happen, felt pity for myself often. When I learned more about God I changed my ways and I am always thankful for everything. I try to find the good in every situation. I do believe that God has a plan, and this has all happened for a reason. I know that something good will come out of this, and things will fall into place. But every once in a while, I do sneak a God, why is this happening? Why can't he come home now? It is hard to deal with, life would be different of course if he was home, but he is not. So for now this is our routine. This is our life. 

I still pray everyday for things to change. For people to listen. For justice. I know that there are many others out there going through this. Please keep your heads up. Have hope. The more we stand up for their rights, the more we will be heard.

It has been almost a year now. I must admit it has gone pretty fast. I believe life is precious and I treasure everyday. I do not want to rush life because we only have a limited amount of time here, but on the other hand I want the time to go fast so it is hard to balance. It gets confusing at times. I want to live a happy life, but I want him to be a part of that. Yes he is a part of it, but from afar. I know our day will come and we talk about the day I pick him up at those gates. Oh that day will be wonderful I know. I dream about it all the time. Just to be able to hold him without getting in trouble will be wonderful!! 

So I have wrote a lot about the unfairness of law enforcement not looking into the lives of these men caught on internet stings. One thing I have pointed out a number of times is the fact that most of the men "caught" in these stings had been going through some kind of depression, life event or addiction which is not taken into consideration or for the most part even looked at.

I have looked into this pretty deeply and am even more angered knowing that this is most likely the cause for the behavioral changes in most of these men.

Often when we are depressed we are not fully aware of it at the time. We will feel sad, lonely, cut off from the world and different then we normally do, but we will most times brush it off as being tired or stressed or think that it will change on its own. The fact of the matter is, depression is not something that is easily cured on its own and often we need professional help to rid it.

So what does addiction have to do with depression? A whole lot! When we are depressed, our body lack endorphin's.

Here is a little about endorphins.

Addiction is a common response to depression or, more precisely, to the deficiency of brain chemicals and nutrients that lead to depression. When we don’t have enough endorphins – the happy chemical – we seek highs to increase endorphin's and manufacture happiness.

So what happens is when we find something that releases endorphin's we start to feel a little better. We continue to do that activity, what ever it is. Drugs, drinking, sex, gambling etc. Because it is helping us to feel better that activity or substance is craved. When the "happiness" of what we are doing begins to decrease with time because of abuse of the thing we are doing, we do that activity more. The cycle goes on an on until it becomes an addiction. Once addicted it is not easy to stop because when it stops the release of endorphin's stop.

This is why we need medical intervention when something becomes an addiction. People often want to stop what they are doing but find it almost impossible. 

Because of this, many men are addicted to sex or are able to converse in this manner. It brings a high. It releases the endorphin's. It does not mean that they are a threat to society. It means that they need medical help. Help to deal with the underlying cause which is depression. Once the depression is cured, then these types of conversations would not be necessary to them anymore. 

We see all types of men being arrested from these stings. From rich to poor. Anyone could have depression. Anyone can be going through a major change in their lives. Depression is not prejudice. 

This is why I believe that all men should be evaluated for depression and mental issues before being thrown into prison and punished for live. A little psychiatric help could go a long way and help save these men. Do you think that they are going to get any less depressed in prison? They are going to get more depressed and probably cause a bigger rate of re-occurrence when they are released. 

I strongly believe that all the men who were arrested in these stings should be individually evaluated by a doctor to find out what was going on in their lives when this incident occurred. It is only fair. I would bet that there would be an extremely high percentage of men who are found to have been depressed when this isolated incident occurred.

 

It is hard to cope with life when someone you love is in prison. Not only for the person in prison, but for friends and family members. You are often filled with mixed emotions. Anger, sadness, confusion, loneliness etc.. The best thing we can do for our loved ones in prison is be an emotion support. Things are much different for people in prison. It is a big adjustment and it will take some quite some time to get use to being where they are. This is especially true for first time offenders. Remember people are going to have to change because they have to become somewhat of a chameleon to blend in with the rest of the population. Seeing changes in the one you love will be normal.

Here are some things you should do to help them out.

• The last thing they need from a friend or family member is to be judged. Maybe they did make a mistake, maybe they did so some wrong, but judging them is not going to help them to adapt. It is only going to make them more crazy. If they did wrong, I am sure they are aware of it. Instead of bringing up what they did to get in their, talk about what they should do when they get out of there.
• In my opinion, it is important for a wife or girlfriend to let them know how much they care, but try your hardest not to breakdown every time you have contact. You have to try to be as strong as possible for them. They are going to need to lean on you. They are going to need to have some memories of the past and feel some familiarity in a very unfamiliar place. Keep conversations normal and light. 
• Sent letters, keep communication. Inmates are often very bored and lonely. You need to keep their mind going. Help them get magazines and books. Write often. Visit when you can. Send pictures. Anything to help pass time in a pleasant manner will help. Find newspaper articles or magazine clippings that they will like and send it to them. Take some time out of your day to spend on them. They will appreciate it.

These are just a few things that you can do to help your loved one get through this hard time. I think that the most important of all is to be supportive and to make sure they know that they are not alone.

Right now I have 111 signatures on my petition. That is great! But I need it to reach 200 in order to send it out. Well 200 is my goal. I would love to have many more than that. So please if you read my site and or blog, please take the time to sign my petition. Here is the link. Petition.

I get so sick to my stomach thinking about what is going on. I live my life and I deal with this situation, but when I take the time to slow down and think it just kills me. I know we will get through this. And so will you, but it is such a shame and a waste of good lives when people say stupid words and are punished for them for the rest of their lives. I know he is not a child predator, like many other men who said stupid things on the web. Why can't they see that? OOpps, they can, they just see the bonus money that they are getting for locking these men up!! $$$ in their eyes. I know this man, he is not a threat. Why do they not want to hear about the past lives of these men? They will say it is not relevant. No they do not want to hear it because then they would have to admit that these men do not have any characteristics or signs of being predators.

Ahh done venting for the moment!!

Well if you read my site, you know I love a sex offender. Most people reading this love a sex offender. Sex offender haters will all say, how can you love a sex offender? Well they are people too. And for those of you who are not friends, family or spouses of a sex offender, you would be shocked to know that most of these people are not who you think they are. They are not child predators out there looking to harm your child. They are men who said some stupid stuff behind a computer screen and a keyboard. Who were speaking with a adult and a pretend kid. They were in a world of make believe talking some crazy sh**. Being enticed and led by the ideas of an undercover. Yes be haters and judge, but really you should not judge what you do not understand, or do not know. 

I am aware that there are sex offenders out there, people preying on our children, but they are creating sex offenders and fishing for people who will talk about immoral sexual activities. There is a big difference. I find more and more information on the web about these stings and how they are not being conducted properly.

Look what I read today. Information found on 
http://floridascandal.blogspot.com/



COMING DIRECTLY FROM THE INTERNET CRIMES AGAINST CHILDREN (ICAC) FEDERAL TRAINING MANUAL FOR THE UNDERCOVER ONLINE CHAT TRAINING COURSE:1. LAW ENFORCEMENT SHALL NOT USE THE PROFILE OF AN ADULT ON ANY WEBSITE.

2. LAW ENFORCEMENT SHALL NOT USE ADULT DATING WEBSITES.

3. LAW ENFORCEMENT SHALL ONLY USE THE PROFILE AGES BETWEEN THE AGES OF 10 and 17.

PEOPLE these rules are NOT being followed. Is that fair?. Do our loved ones have to spend years in jail and then a lifetime full of punishment after the fact when the rules are in black and white and are not being obeyed on the part of law enforcement?

Please let me know your thoughts. How can we let our loved ones sit in jail when the rules are not being followed?

This is crazy. I just read this article and it makes me so scared. The things that are happening to people who are on the registry is bad and changes need to be made to all those who paid the price for their crimes, but think about it. Since they categorize all sex offenders under the same label, this will be happening to anyone who has to register. Yes that means even the men who have no history in abusing children. Who were unfairly thrown in prison when there intent was not to be with a child, but with a freaky adult woman. That means all the young men who had consensual sex with their girlfriends and the guy who took a leak in the bush and now has to register. This will happen to so many people unnecessarily. We can't let this continue.

Sex offenders forced from Allapattah trailer park, now in Hialeah


As many as 54 registered sex offenders were ushered out of a trailer park on the outskirts of Allapattah last week by probation officers from the Florida Department of Corrections after the state discovered the park was too close to a center for troubled youths.

The offenders were told to leave because of a strict Miami-Dade County ordinance that doesn’t permit them to live within 2,500 feet of a school or anywhere children might congregate. The ordinance exceeds the state’s 1,000-foot limit and has caused headaches over the past several years for local and state officials, as well as sex offenders, who are forced to shuttle from place to place as children’s gathering spots are discovered.

This is the third high-profile removal of offenders since 2007, when a group was found living under the Julia Tuttle Causeway. Last year another group was forced to leave a Shorecrest street corner.

This time the issue is a school for troubled kids called The Miami Bridge Youth and Family Services, which is within 2,500 feet of the River Park Trailer Court at 2260 NW 27th Ave., where the offenders were living. State officials say they only recently learned the trailer park was near the youth center, though the center has been a drop-off point for troubled kids for the state’s Department of Children & Families for years.

“We were unaware that facility was considered a school,” said Misty Cash, deputy communications director for the state Department of Corrections. “When we became aware, we’re going to do what the law says.”

The Miami Bridge houses mostly runaways and troubled children who are too old for foster homes. About four months ago, when representatives from the Miami-Dade Homeless Trust visited the Miami Bridge, they realized its proximity to River Park.

Homeless Trust Chairman Ron Book said his staff then contacted corrections, and Corrections Circuit Administrator Maria DiBernardo told Book the Miami Bridge wasn’t listed as a gathering spot for children, as it should have been.

A Miami-Dade County website shows River Park is within 2,500 feet of several sites where children congregate, including the Miami Bridge. A disclaimer on the site says the information is gathered from a multitude of sources and may not be up to date. Most of the offenders removed from the trailer park now spend evenings at a warehouse district next to train tracks at Northwest 71st Street and 36th Court, in unincorporated Miami-Dade across the street from Hialeah. They sleep outside without a roof over their heads, urinating and defecating in a nearby field behind some trees.


Read more here: http://www.miamiherald.com/2013/08/08/3551330/sex-offenders-forced-from-allapattah.html#storylink=cpy

It has been quite a while since I wrote a blog post. I have been extremely busy but of course still working to try to change these crazy laws. My visits are on like an every other week or every three week schedule right now, I feel so wonderful when I get to see him. It really makes me happy. It is so sad that we have to walk separate ways, but one day he will be walking out with me!  

I would like to thank those of you who so far have sent me their stories. I posted on my home page that I would like to collect as many letters as I can from as many loved ones as I can so I can get a package together. All our voices together will make more noise. I still do not have nearly enough, so if you have not yet sent me your story, please do so.

Remember to also include how this has affected the your life as well. What it means to society and how unfair it is compared to other laws. The more I get the better it will be.. I also stated that this must be a first time offence and that this was an isolated incident. Please read here for all details.

Bascially from the response I get regarding the internet stings, the men involved were on the internet in adult based sites, talking to adults at first and then the undercover bringing up the conversation of a minor. In lots of cases the men stated they were not interested, but yet they were still pushed. It was not the idea of the man, it was the idea of the woman. 

Not one person who's story I read had any previous indications of interest in children. No child porn, no previous email contacts, no suggestions of pedophilia. 

A majority of the men had some stressful incident going on in their lives where they were more vulnerable than usual, who were seeking attention or looking for something to compensate for their loneliness. These men were not looking to go after your children. They were looking to hook up with an adult. Yes they talked some crazy shi*, but that is what is was talk. Even if they went to meet, with no history of interest in children, how can law enforcement say that they really did not believe the person on the other end of the computer to be an adult playing games?

How is it that these laws are so much different then actual child abuse cases and murder? Anyone who really takes time to read these stories would see the truth. It is all about money and making law enforcement look good by putting all the men in prison. Men who were not stalking children!!

Visit after visit I have realized more and more that people make mistakes. People do need to go to prison when they do wrong, but the punishment needs to be fair. I have learned a lot about the way the system works. I always thought that we had this great legal system. People have no clue what is going on behind the scenes. The abuse of power, what these men have to endure. It is not right. It just really blows my mind. 

I am going to try to start a support forum here on my website. To be honest, I am not sure how I will work it right now. I know that when I get it up and going I may need some people to help out and be administrators. People who can help answer questions and moderate. If you would be interested in that, please contact me.

The longer we wait to speak, the more men and families will be going through this. It does not look like they are stopping these stings. Or these entrapment's!! I pray for change now.

So this past Saturday I got to visit again. Considering where we were, we had a really nice time. I loved that I got to hold his hand and look into his beautiful eyes. It kills me inside knowing that he should not be where he is. He is not the man they say he is. People make mistakes and at times are in need in help. He does not deserve to be locked up the way that he is. But I must say I am proud of how strong he is. He has a wonderful heart and I just pray that being in prison does not change that.

This time the wait to get in was much longer than last time. It was a surprise to everyone on line. I left my house at 6:30 in the morning, got there around 10:00 and did not get to see him until 12:30. Even though I wish I could have had more time, I am still very happy that I got to see him. 

Some days its not that bad for me. I just try to think that the day will come when I will be there waiting for him to walk through those doors a free man. Then other days I think about how many years it will be and about the fact the since all are categorized equally with sex crimes, he will have another 15 years of probation and a life time of registry, so he will actually never be free! I am hoping that something will change soon so that that will not be the case shortly.

Well we ate and talked and ate and talked some more. The hardest part of the visit is the goodbye. You walk one way he walks the other. I do not want to leave. I would sit in that room for days to be able to be close to him. Then I have four hours to drive home and think about it. Though I can't complain, at least I am free. He has to go back to his lonely world just thinking about how much it sucks that he can't be home with the ones who love him. 

I am having one of those sad moments right now. I wan't to hug him, hold him but I can't. But I need to be strong. I need to keep the faith. And I will continue to have hope for a loved one.